How to be strong when your life is falling apart

“Some people believe holding on and hanging  in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.”   ―Ann Landers

“It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society.” ―Jiddu Krishnamurti

One of the worst feelings we experience as humans is the belief that no one else understands, especially in our dark moments.  This is isolating and makes us sink deeper into our agony.  It is extremely tough and is perpetuated by a culture which views emotional pain as a sign of weakness.

In the last week, someone I knew ended her life.  She had it all – The American Dream – and wasn’t even 30 yet.  This broke my heart, pissed me off, and took me back a few years when I hit a point where everything that I had accomplished and worked for was meaningless to me.

I was lost and could hardly recognize the person I had become. The dream had turned into a nightmare.

What did I have to complain about though?  My life was picture perfect, while others were losing their jobs and people in other parts of the world were starving.  Suck it up, and keep going!

There is an expectation that regardless of what we are feeling, we must be strong and hold it together.  But, what does it really mean to be strong?

It takes strength to step out of a life that is not working and choosing a path that works for you.  There is nothing strong about someone who pretends to be happy and compensates for a meaningless existence by accumulating things and titles to impress others and dull their pain.

To be strong means knowing when to let go.  It means honoring all of our emotions, not just the feel-good ones.  It means being vulnerable and admitting that we need help.  It means having the courage to choose a different path, even when it is not the popular one.  It means listening to our inner voice and doing what is right for us.  It also means sharing our stories, including the trials, because we never know when we could save a life.

How are you being strong?  Are there parts of yourself which you are not honoring for fear of what others may think?  What is a step you could take today towards authenticity?

Sending you love and strength!

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