The most dangerous place you can be

“The fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself. And that no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams” - Paulo Coelho

Have you ever dated someone who was great – attractive, smart, successful – but there was no chemistry?  Though everyone viewed your partner as perfect, the connection was off.  Would you stay to be like everyone else and to keep up appearances?  What would you advise a friend who was in this predicament to do?

This can apply to our jobs as well.

From my experience, I can tell you that the most dangerous place to be is in that space of knowing that something is off and wanting to follow your heart but being deathly afraid of stepping out of our ‘safe’ space.  The result is anxiety and a fierce battle between the need for certainty and that part of you that wants to leap.

The need to fully express yourself and be authentic is not being honored.  This requires taking a risk, and dropping below the water line of the iceberg, which translates to not knowing.

Yes, you have a steady paycheck, whatever prestige comes with your job, and benefits.  But if you have no passion for what you do, what is the point?  And really, how safe is that job, anyway?

As humans, avoiding pain and suffering takes priority over going after pleasure.  The pain in this case is fear – fear of the worst case scenario actually happening.  By giving in to fear and not changing, aren’t you by default casting a vote for unhappiness and choosing to always live in fear?

By following your heart, you may end up broke and hungry.  But, seriously, what are the chances of that happening?  And what about that possibility of ending up happy and alive rather than stuck in a life of regret?  How do you think your relationship with fear will shift if you risk finding out?

Are you tolerating a lingering dissatisfaction in order to avoid the potential devastation of coming face to face with your worst fear?  How likely is that outcome?  Would you be able to recover?  Would you regret not giving your dreams a shot?

Would you like to be coached on overcoming your fear?  Message me at to schedule a chat.

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