“Be  daring, be different, be impractical, be anything that will assert integrity of  purpose and imaginative vision against the play-it-safers, the creatures of the  commonplace, the slaves of the ordinary.” – Cecil  Beaton

Chances are that there have been times in your life when things felt off.  In many cases, we resist this feeling because we cannot quite put our finger on what is not working.  Or you may know that your job or relationship isn’t exactly what you want it to be, but beyond that you don’t know why.

Because we cannot pinpoint the source, we tend to blame people or external circumstances for our dissatisfaction.  In this way, we take the responsibility away from ourselves and assign it to something outside of us, which your happiness becomes dependent upon.  It is about the demanding boss or idiot co-worker.  If they were perfect, your life would be all sunshine and sweet smelling roses.

Not true!  You are responsible for how you feel.

These feelings of uneasiness surface as an indicator that you are out of integrity and are not being authentic to who you are at your core.  In other words, you are not honoring what is most important to you.  If you are the entrepreneurial type who detest authority, then taking orders from a boss will not doing anything for your value of autonomy, and you will, without a doubt, be unhappy.

I offer you this:  in those moments when you feel off (usually accompanied by underlying feelings of anxiety or fear), ask yourself what value are you not honoring in that moment.  What need is not being met?  Once you have the answer, consider steps that you can take to be in alignment with what is important.

Is there an area of your life that is not fulfilling?  How can you close the gap between where you are and where you would like to be?  What is one action that you can take now?